It is also necessary that the person involved in this or that activity is connected by multifaceted relationships with other people.

The real, spiritual wealth of a person, K. Marx emphasized, depends on the richness of his real relations.

Reading the book, you will notice that the theme of communication and relationships between people is most vividly spelled out in it. And this is natural, since it is extremely important for the development of the inner world, for the formation of the personality of a preschooler and a schoolchild. The book also declares itself very vividly and prominently in the book: personality is formed by personality. Yes, play, learning, work are important. Yes, of course, the most important factors that determine the forming core of the child's personality – his beliefs, needs and interests, his abilities and character – are the family, the kindergarten group, the school class, but the spiritual potential of the child's mother, father, and teacher still has a strong influence on what this personality will be.

A. A. Bodalev, full member of the Academy of Pedagogical Sciences of the USSR

Chapter 1. How to create a happy family

Love, its consolidation, is always the overcoming of difficulties, a struggle. And often this struggle is difficult. But in order to win, a person must believe in the possibility of victory. Those who go into battle, convinced that they have no chance, are doomed to defeat.

And what if it turns out to see the light, only to see each other, to look into each other's eyes, and be silent, and not be satisfied. And if it doesn't work out, let's go into the distant darkness and knock on the door of a quiet house, where the window shines. And the door will open, and so will we The owner will meet you so ordinarily, that the wisest eye cannot see, that he is invisible. And we'll gather around the fire... And it will come true, exactly: You travel into me, and I am in you and in the night... V. Levy

In order for children to appear in the family and to have someone and whom to raise, it is necessary for a family to appear. Therefore, the book opens with a chapter on the psychology of love and the psychological laws of family happiness.

Falling in love and love, loyalty, choosing the only person with whom you will live your whole life – all these are psychological problems that, for better or worse, are solved by each of us. To help make our actions more conscious and our feelings more sincere is the goal of the authors of this chapter. By inviting you to an honest and frank conversation on personal, intimate topics, we hope that psychological knowledge about love will help you make your family happy. And this is necessary: after all, only a loving, benevolent and, we should add, psychologically competent atmosphere of the family is the main and most powerful educator. But if you have not yet found a loved one, if you are unlucky in love, if something did not work out in the family, try to analyze yourself, your actions and feelings together with the psychologists-consultants whom we invited to the pages of our book. We hope that this dialogue will be useful to those who are still preparing to become parents.

Family and love

When we get married, everyone wishes us happiness and good luck. What do people close to us put into these wishes, what do we hope for, what do we expect from marriage, what dreams do we cherish?

The set of those features that are included in the concept of "family happiness" depends on the laws by which the institution of the family itself lives. Over the past decades, these laws have changed a lot, the family is in the process of change and development.

From time immemorial, there have been traditional functions of the family.

The family was an economic unit, and from this point of view, it was simply necessary to live in a family: it would have been very difficult for a single woman or a single man in the village of the past, for example, to feed himself.